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Proposal Timing and the 5th House
The chart can separate the ask from the marriage. The 5th lord times courtship. The 7th lord times the contract.
Courtship has its own lord
A proposal is closer to the 5th house than to the wedding. The 5th is romance and the decision to speak. The 7th is the spouse and the contract. If the 5th lord and the 7th lord are different planets, the proposal and the marriage can fall in different antardashas. A Venus mahadasha of 20 years can hold a 5th-lord antardasha for the ask and a 7th-lord antardasha later for the rite. Collapsing them into one date is how predictions get specific and wrong.
Their chart has to be willing too. Their Venus or 7th lord runs the impulse to ask. Your 5th shows the season in which you are asked. One chart does not propose to itself.
What the chart will not schedule
No kundli prints the evening of a proposal. The antardasha is a band of months. A Jupiter transit over the 5th or 7th can tighten attention inside that band, and it still is not a muhurta. Muhurta is chosen after two people have agreed, from tithi and nakshatra, for the wedding, not for the sentence someone says in a kitchen.
Rahu in the 5th can make the ask sudden and unconventional, with Ketu in the 11th. Saturn in the 5th can make the ask late. Those are styles of the 5th lord's period, not a countdown.
If the proposal never becomes a 7th
A strong 5th lord with a weak 7th lord, or a 7th lord in the 8th or 12th, can produce courtship that does not become a marriage. The proposal question and the wedding question are allowed to have different answers. Read both lords in the Navamsa before you treat a romantic antardasha as a wedding.
If you are waiting, identify which period is running and whether it is the 5th lord, the 7th lord, or neither. Neither means the chart is spending some other house. The proposal is not hidden in that other house.
Frequently asked questions
Which house times a proposal?
The 5th, through its lord's dasha or antardasha. The 7th times the marriage that may follow.
Can both happen in one mahadasha?
Yes. A long period such as Venus's 20 years can hold separate antardashas for the 5th lord and the 7th lord.
Does their sun sign decide the month?
No. Their Venus and 7th lord, and your 5th lord, are the periods. The sun sign does not propose.
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