Falling in Love with a Friend

The eleventh house is gains, and in practice it is where friends are seen. The fifth house is children and the place of a romance that is not yet marriage. When the eleventh lord joins the fifth lord, affection can start inside a friendship. That link is a yoga to look for in the two charts, not a habit of five rashis. The seventh house is marriage. Until the fifth or the eleventh connects to the seventh, the feeling can stay a close friendship with a brighter color. Venus is the karaka of the spouse and of pleasure, so Venus has to be in the conversation.

One person's eleventh house does not force the friend's fifth. The other chart may keep the native in the eleventh, a friend, and never open the seventh. Reading only your own sun sign produces false certainty. Navamsa, the ninefold division, shows whether a fifth-house romance has the substance to become a seventh-house marriage. A pretty Rashi link that collapses in Navamsa is a reason for patience, not a reason to rank signs by how often they kiss their friends.

The period of the fifth lord, the eleventh lord, or Venus is when a friendship is most likely to change temperature. Venus mahadasha lasts 20 years, which is long enough for several friendships to be misread. A shorter antardasha is often the actual season of the shift. Lahiri sidereal lords decide who those lords are. No degree of a current transit is required, and none should be invented, to understand the rule.